Dealing with people.

I’ve not been on in a while so I’ll just update you a bit: I got a job at Walmart as a cashier about 3 months ago.

It’s not been all bad, mostly just a lot of repetition but as the job title implies I do have to take care of, handle and/or deal with customers. As an individual who gets nervous easily and needs to feel comfortable to become even remotely social, this job comes super easy to me aside from some snags. So… here is a list of things I’ve learned thus far on how to deal with people in both the workplace and in everyday life.

  • Come prepared. You will constantly be surprised so just be prepared for anything, good or bad.
  • Not everyone is your friend. They will pretend like they are and you can talk like you are but no, not everyone should be your friend.
  • Don’t get discouraged. Shit happens, people make mistakes. Just keep going because it does work out.
  • Ask for help. You do not have to know everything and no one is expecting you to.
  • Find your center. It sounds cheesy but it helps when you need to refocus.
  • Secure your quiet area. You will always been a debunker after every day, working or not. Its just good to have something that can help you wind down from everything.
  • Learn who you can trust. This goes back to the friend thing, not everyone is nice enough to help you out when in need.
  • Make a friend. Trust me, sitting alone at lunch sucks and sadly I do it more than I want to.
  • Learn to laugh. This one is annoying and can be difficult but its required for a lot of things (especially in retail.)
  • Don’t overthink the small stuff. There will always be something bigger that will come soon after.
  • Pace yourself. Rushing sucks and when you’re sore and you’re handling something it sucks even more. just take your time, you’ll get it soon enough.
  • Always have a pen on hand. I don’t know what it is about pens but its like they vanish; keep one on you incase of emergency or as a conversation starter.

Hopefully this can help.

Just a thought.

Adopting Your Own Kid.

So… if you’ve kept up with my posts, you know that I’ve recently moved to Missouri to be with my dad and my step-mom (and Jon) but the flip side of the whole thing is that I didn’t know of my father until I was 10 years old, didn’t contact him until March of 2013 and didn’t meet with him face-t0-face until November 2013 so its been a pretty wild year… but this post isn’t so much about my dad but about my step-mother, Tery.

Tery is easily one of the sweetest people I’ve ever met and her and I have so much in common. We like the same music, food, movies, same outlooks on things.. there’s just a lot (: Recently Tery apologized to me because she didn’t know if I would take offense to the fact that she’s introduced me as her daughter to everyone which I DO NOT!!! Tery and Ryan are definitely becoming a big part of my everything right now and I was just beyond happy to know that she’s accepted me so fast into a position that is so important and it’s nice to know that I’m in the family tree (and they’re introducing Jon as their son-in-law so he’s there too.)

I really think I’m gonna enjoy myself, just need to get over the culture shock of going from a city/suburb life to a middle-of-nowhere life.

Being “Sophisticatedly Different”

If you have seen my posts, you’ve somewhere seen “sophisticatedlydifferentharlee“.

Being “sophisticatedly different” pretty much means just being weird; not creepy weird but in a personality kind of way. One of my friends, every time I would say something different or funny or anything to her, she would say, “weirdo” and I would reply with, “I’m not weird, I’m sophisticatedly different.” and thus began everything.

So be proud to be “sophisticatedly different” and happy with who you are whether it be silly, funny, stupid, or even weird. ;]

Just a thought.

American Horror Story and Bridegroom

Today in itself was a glorious but long day. There were conferences for my classes, I got my blood work back and I got to watch a beautiful and sad movie called “Bridegroom”.

Bridegroom is a documentary about a couple named Shane and Tom who were completely and madly in love. They wanted a home together, to be married, to have a family, to have their eternal. On Shane’s side, his family embraced and loved Tom, but on Tom’s side, they shunned and hated the idea of him being gay and blamed Shane for all of it. Gradually as Shane and Tom’s relationship lasted though, Tom’s mother began coming around and getting used to everything and the idea of loving Shane as well. Not long after everything had been turning up, on May 7, 2011, Tom accidently falls four stories and hits the concrete pavement below when goofing off with one of his friends. It was absolutely heartbreaking to see everyone around Shane and Tom be effected by his death and more so to watch as Tom’s family completely rejects Shane and doesn’t allow him to attend the funeral. This movie truly was one of the most amazing ones that I have seen about a gay couple.

Once the movie was finished, it was ALL me and Tori could talk about for a good 30 minutes. We discussed our favorite and least favorite parts while hurrying home to make it back before 9 pm so we could watch American Horror Story: Coven.

All-in-all, everything today was great. The results for my test came back as I thought they would, I got to spend an evening with my AMAZING Pride family, and I got to watch my favorite T.V. show with my best friend. A great ending to a great day.

 

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After a long day of school